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Office affairs have been around since before there were offices. They are tempting, expedient and dangerous. Unfortunately, those few moments of pleasure can have long lasting consequences.
Dear Ms R,
I'm a 32-year old woman, work in a very high profile investment bank and would say I'm pretty level headed. I've never really let my career and my private life mix. Recently, as I often do, I worked late. So did my boss. He then asked me out for a drink which surprised me since he'd never really been that social before. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex in a hotel. It was good and I do really like him. But he's married and I know that it won't go anywhere. He wants to meet up again. What should I do? I know what I should do, which is not see him, but I also know what I want to do. Help please.
Ms P
Dear Ms P,
First, I'm not going to judge you for falling into bed with him. I totally understand how it happens. Although we are smart women who should know better, sometimes there is a tipping point where certain elements collide and we just think "Oh, what the hell, it's only sex." Trouble is it's not only sex, is it. Despite all these women writing their accounts of no strings shags, Ms R can tell you that she has never met a woman who didn't long to get attached. We are not men. We don't think like them. For us women a strange thing happens when we have sex with someone we like: our brains get involved and convince us that we have a deep connection with this person even though we only got down and dirty with them for a couple of hours.
However, if you can wait it out, usually you can see sense. It's called the four day rule and it states that women take four days to get back to normal afterwards. Thank your hormones. Trouble is that if you're in an office and you know and like this man, this ain't gonna work, is it?
OK, enough of the understanding. I'm going to have to lay down the rules here. No, no and no mixing spreadsheets with bedsheets in this situation. He's married and he's your boss. Frankly, I'd rather you played with explosives. Of course he wants to see you again - he's probably bored at home because he's lost communication with his wife and here you are young, smart and in easy proximity. And he's a bit older, maybe a bit smarter, a lot richer and in easy proximity. This is the kind of cocktail that will make you throw up and keep throwing up long after you've finished it.
So what you have to do is tell him no, but do it carefully. You don't want to get him offside or bruise his ego. Just say you think he's great but you have a lot of respect for him and think it would be better not to get involved. Tell him you'll enjoy the memory. Avoid situations where you are working late with only him.
Then go out and get yourself a life.
I'm a 32-year old woman, work in a very high profile investment bank and would say I'm pretty level headed. I've never really let my career and my private life mix. Recently, as I often do, I worked late. So did my boss. He then asked me out for a drink which surprised me since he'd never really been that social before. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex in a hotel. It was good and I do really like him. But he's married and I know that it won't go anywhere. He wants to meet up again. What should I do? I know what I should do, which is not see him, but I also know what I want to do. Help please.
Ms P
Dear Ms P,
First, I'm not going to judge you for falling into bed with him. I totally understand how it happens. Although we are smart women who should know better, sometimes there is a tipping point where certain elements collide and we just think "Oh, what the hell, it's only sex." Trouble is it's not only sex, is it. Despite all these women writing their accounts of no strings shags, Ms R can tell you that she has never met a woman who didn't long to get attached. We are not men. We don't think like them. For us women a strange thing happens when we have sex with someone we like: our brains get involved and convince us that we have a deep connection with this person even though we only got down and dirty with them for a couple of hours.
However, if you can wait it out, usually you can see sense. It's called the four day rule and it states that women take four days to get back to normal afterwards. Thank your hormones. Trouble is that if you're in an office and you know and like this man, this ain't gonna work, is it?
OK, enough of the understanding. I'm going to have to lay down the rules here. No, no and no mixing spreadsheets with bedsheets in this situation. He's married and he's your boss. Frankly, I'd rather you played with explosives. Of course he wants to see you again - he's probably bored at home because he's lost communication with his wife and here you are young, smart and in easy proximity. And he's a bit older, maybe a bit smarter, a lot richer and in easy proximity. This is the kind of cocktail that will make you throw up and keep throwing up long after you've finished it.
So what you have to do is tell him no, but do it carefully. You don't want to get him offside or bruise his ego. Just say you think he's great but you have a lot of respect for him and think it would be better not to get involved. Tell him you'll enjoy the memory. Avoid situations where you are working late with only him.
Then go out and get yourself a life.
Here Is The Writer : Ms Robinson
Ms Robinson was once a copywriter who wrote award winning ads and had eight hour lunches. Weary of the sex, glamour and lavish parties, she switched to corporate communications where she held the hands of executives and banned them from writing this execrable sentence: "In this ever changing world, the only constant is change itself." These days she writes for an increasing variety of people and has ghostwritten several books but if she told you who for, she'd have to kill you. Click here to read her blog, Woman of Experience.
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