That Loving Feeling
The Soul Sister reminds us that time together leads to intimacy, and you know what that leads to...
Dear Soul Sister: I work my tail off and am growing apart from my other half. Any tips on relocating that loving feeling? I feel like it's actually a five-year itch!
Ann S
Dear Ann S
The simple answer to your very real and painful problem is quite simple (but also hard) - it's time.
The fact you mention working your tail off shows that you are already on the right thought path. It sounds to me like you don't spend much time together, and when you do you are both exhausted (like 99% of the City population). So are you really surprised you don't feel that loving feeling?
The only way forward is to literally schedule more time together, and do more of the things you enjoy doing together. Then you can become creative and do some things you never have done (which we'll leave to your imagination!).
Of course a little support for the body helps, and there are many things you can do together - get a gentle massage (or take a class together), a Shiatsu treatment or even a mind/body weekend. You'll be surprised how effective such a gentle kick-start can be.
Just make sure you make time for intimacy of the mind and the body, because each kind reinforces the other (and you get a double whammy effect!)
To submit a question, email soulsister@hereisthecity.com. Unfortunately, she can't answer all questions or enter into correspondence.
Ann S
Dear Ann S
The simple answer to your very real and painful problem is quite simple (but also hard) - it's time.
The fact you mention working your tail off shows that you are already on the right thought path. It sounds to me like you don't spend much time together, and when you do you are both exhausted (like 99% of the City population). So are you really surprised you don't feel that loving feeling?
The only way forward is to literally schedule more time together, and do more of the things you enjoy doing together. Then you can become creative and do some things you never have done (which we'll leave to your imagination!).
Of course a little support for the body helps, and there are many things you can do together - get a gentle massage (or take a class together), a Shiatsu treatment or even a mind/body weekend. You'll be surprised how effective such a gentle kick-start can be.
Just make sure you make time for intimacy of the mind and the body, because each kind reinforces the other (and you get a double whammy effect!)
To submit a question, email soulsister@hereisthecity.com. Unfortunately, she can't answer all questions or enter into correspondence.
Here Is The Writer : Annegret O'Dwyer
Annegret O'Dwyer is a psychotherapist who has had a practise in Harley Street for 10 years, and recently opened one in Southbank. She is accredited and licensed by the UKCP (United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapy) and the EAP (European Association of Psychotherapists). Her favourite book is How to be Happy by the Dalai Lama, and The Right to Speak by Patsy Rodenburg, and she likes spending her evenings at the cinema or theatre.
www.annegretodwyer.co.uk
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