City Boys with City Girls
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Dating in the City is no task for the faint of heart. It takes a City Girl of steel to navigate the curve balls of City players. Indeed, decades after the feminist movement promised an idyllic world of fairness, it’s become increasingly apparent that when it comes to City romance, old habits die hard.
The tricky dating minefield that exists between City Boys and Girls can be partially explained by observing Madonna. Some straight men hate Madonna because she has 'balls', and some women also hate her because she exhibits the power many women are denied, personally or professionally.
Just like Madonna, the 'City Girl' is a postmodern myth. She does what she wants when she wants, not out of some kind of rogue selfishness, but in the same unapologetic way men have been doing it from the beginning of time. In the male-dominated City, City Girls have their cake and eat it too. We get maids to do the chores for us, and men to hold doors for us.
Like most City Girls, Madonna is a totally self-made woman who proves that power is accessible to all. But the established City Boys are not about to relinquish that power without a fight.
The relationship between a female body and lack of power is, of course, part of the reason why women have been forced to act as men to achieve success. Gender is at odds with the masculine nature of the occupation we perform.
The problem with City Girls dating City Boys in any age bracket is that you want the same things professionally (money, power, recognition) but not personally (they want a lot of sex from different people, you want a lot of commitment from just one). City Boys prefer women who seem malleable and awed. We prefer men who seem confident and debonair. City Boys want young models with perfect legs. We want older men with perfect credit records. And the biggest secret fear of single City Girls is that their powerful positions are a turn-off for men, while the male power is an aphrodisiac for women.
Having thoroughly analyzed the nexus between City Boys and City Girls, I can unscientifically conclude that there is an imperfect correlation between the sexes’ agendas.
Most City Girls want someone who is attractive, talented, financially stable and generous - in other words, someone who is exactly like them, only even more so. On the other hand, what do City Boys want? Typically, someone who has a nice body and who’s kind.
At the end of the day, let’s face it: men are lazy. The bottom line is that they don’t want it all, and women do.
It’s something to think about the next time you find yourself choosing between determining Beta or domestic bliss.
Just like Madonna, the 'City Girl' is a postmodern myth. She does what she wants when she wants, not out of some kind of rogue selfishness, but in the same unapologetic way men have been doing it from the beginning of time. In the male-dominated City, City Girls have their cake and eat it too. We get maids to do the chores for us, and men to hold doors for us.
Like most City Girls, Madonna is a totally self-made woman who proves that power is accessible to all. But the established City Boys are not about to relinquish that power without a fight.
The relationship between a female body and lack of power is, of course, part of the reason why women have been forced to act as men to achieve success. Gender is at odds with the masculine nature of the occupation we perform.
The problem with City Girls dating City Boys in any age bracket is that you want the same things professionally (money, power, recognition) but not personally (they want a lot of sex from different people, you want a lot of commitment from just one). City Boys prefer women who seem malleable and awed. We prefer men who seem confident and debonair. City Boys want young models with perfect legs. We want older men with perfect credit records. And the biggest secret fear of single City Girls is that their powerful positions are a turn-off for men, while the male power is an aphrodisiac for women.
Having thoroughly analyzed the nexus between City Boys and City Girls, I can unscientifically conclude that there is an imperfect correlation between the sexes’ agendas.
Most City Girls want someone who is attractive, talented, financially stable and generous - in other words, someone who is exactly like them, only even more so. On the other hand, what do City Boys want? Typically, someone who has a nice body and who’s kind.
At the end of the day, let’s face it: men are lazy. The bottom line is that they don’t want it all, and women do.
It’s something to think about the next time you find yourself choosing between determining Beta or domestic bliss.
Here Is The Writer : Ceedy Girl
CeedyGirl is a saucy young investment banker, trading and dating in the heart of the Square Mile. She has worked in the City for the past four years, has a brutal Starbucks habit, and lives by the mantra 'carpe diem'.
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