A Blessing in Disguise
What do you do when you find out you're not perfectly suited to your field? HITC's Soul Sister has some ideas.
Dear Soul Sister
I'm feeling a bit paranoid at work - like nobody likes me on my team. I didn't have the best review last time around precisely because my boss felt I was not connecting with people (and because I work in HR, this is a must). Do you think I should try and stick it out or make a move? Is there a class for this kind of thing?
SD
Dear SD
Sounds like you are ready to make a few moves, with facing up to a very crucial issue being one of them.
In my experience it is not so uncommon that people in HR having difficulties connecting with others. One might even think they enter that field trying to solve a problem of their own by getting plenty of practise, then facing difficulties when the business wants results, and in turn become control-obsessed and even more unable to relate normally.
What to do? Ask yourself if HR really is what you want to do. Maybe it is time for a giant move - not just a redirection - but a new field.
If you decide you want to stay in HR, there are courses you can do that will allow you to become a little more comfortable relating to others. Try a course at City Lit in Emotional Literacy, or even a basic Counselling Skills Course. There are many self-help books too but they won't be the most useful for you - you need to get in there and practise.
You may well find this bad review has opened up your life in ways you couldn't have imagined!
I'm feeling a bit paranoid at work - like nobody likes me on my team. I didn't have the best review last time around precisely because my boss felt I was not connecting with people (and because I work in HR, this is a must). Do you think I should try and stick it out or make a move? Is there a class for this kind of thing?
SD
Dear SD
Sounds like you are ready to make a few moves, with facing up to a very crucial issue being one of them.
In my experience it is not so uncommon that people in HR having difficulties connecting with others. One might even think they enter that field trying to solve a problem of their own by getting plenty of practise, then facing difficulties when the business wants results, and in turn become control-obsessed and even more unable to relate normally.
What to do? Ask yourself if HR really is what you want to do. Maybe it is time for a giant move - not just a redirection - but a new field.
If you decide you want to stay in HR, there are courses you can do that will allow you to become a little more comfortable relating to others. Try a course at City Lit in Emotional Literacy, or even a basic Counselling Skills Course. There are many self-help books too but they won't be the most useful for you - you need to get in there and practise.
You may well find this bad review has opened up your life in ways you couldn't have imagined!
Here Is The Writer : Annegret O'Dwyer
Annegret O'Dwyer is a psychotherapist who has had a practise in Harley Street for 10 years, and recently opened one in Southbank. She is accredited and licensed by the UKCP (United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapy) and the EAP (European Association of Psychotherapists). Her favourite book is How to be Happy by the Dalai Lama, and The Right to Speak by Patsy Rodenburg, and she likes spending her evenings at the cinema or theatre.
www.annegretodwyer.co.uk
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