Working in a corporate society often encourages shrewd business deals and below the belt punches. Despite modest values and heart-fuelled desires, it can be easy to be lured by pompous acts and arrogance, especially in the competitive workplace.

But in reality, no one wants to do business with a pompous git, and the ladies, who were initially attracted to your arrogance (for some strange reason!), will soon lose interest. So what is the answer when the question is: would you rather be known as a modest confident Michael Dell or the arrogant Donald Trump?

This fine line between confidence and arrogance is often discussed, and men are notorious for not knowing the difference. To clarify, confident people value their beliefs and their abilities, whilst being open about their objectives and potential. Arrogant folk on the other hand, view themselves as superior, mocking people when they make mistakes, and never admitting their own.

From my experience, arrogance is often a mask for deep insecurities or a lack of happiness and purpose in ones life. Self-assured people are happy in their own skin, live a balanced life that’s congruent with their values, and take pleasure in sharing their talents.

The ability to exude confidence is crucial for professional success, for winning new business and working your way up the corporate ladder. On a personal level, it is essential for winning the ladies. The director of a respected City dating agency once told me that men may be missing out because they lack confidence, but that she hears women more often complaining of too much!

So, what can you do to ensure the fine line is not crossed? As a general rule, I tell my clients to work at being comfortable with themselves, to recognize their own capabilities and to stay true to their core values. This eliminates the need to show off and revel in the blunders of others, because you feel no need to draw gloating-style attention to yourself. You are good and you know you are.

Self-belief, self worth and recognition of your own capabilities are a necessary part of being confident, but when that is at the expense of other's feelings and plain disregard for other's values, you cross the line and become that person that nobody wants to be around. If you are seeking long lasting relationships and long term success, you would be better served to avoid arrogance and stand by values of quiet confidence and humility.

Here Is The Writer : lisab1

Following an international modelling career, and after meeting some of the world's most successful men, Lisa Bathurst learnt the secrets to success. Understanding what differentiates the ordinary from the extraordinary, Lisa helps men create an image congruent with the lifestyle they strive for through her lifestyle consulting service, Urbanity. Lisa has lived in more than 10 countries, and is an expert at overcoming language, cultural and class differences, with an impressive ability to cope in varying social situations whilst always oozing and maintaining confidence and sophistication.  Not only does she have extensive knowledge in the fashion industry, she also brings the added benefit of a network of experts, having worked with some of the worlds best stylists, hair and make up artists. Lisa studied Psychology and has undertaken various counselling courses, and brings a professionally empathetic approach to provide a supportive, understanding life coach role, putting to good use her specialist training.

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